Help! I Don't Know How to Write My Wedding Vows (Here's What Most Couples Do)
Hi, friend!
If you're staring at a blank Google Doc wondering how you're supposed to turn years of love, memories, and promises into a three-minute wedding vow...
First of all, take a deep breath.
You're not alone.
In fact, this is one of the most common things I hear from engaged couples.
"I love my fiancé so much... I just don't know how to put it into words."
And here's something I hope brings you a little relief:
Loving someone deeply and putting that love into words are two completely different skills.
Just because you aren't a writer doesn't mean you aren't romantic.
Just because you're struggling doesn't mean your love isn't real.
It simply means you're trying to do something you've probably never done before.
And that's okay.
You're Not Paying Someone to Love Your Partner for You
Every now and then, someone comments on one of my videos and says something like:
"Wedding vows are supposed to be personal. Not paid for."
Honestly...
I understand why someone might think that.
But after helping hundreds of couples write their wedding vows, I've learned something.
People don't come to me because they don't love their partner enough to write their vows.
They come to me because they love them so much that they're terrified of getting it wrong.
They're afraid of forgetting something important.
They're afraid of sounding cheesy.
They're afraid of disappointing the person they love most.
And honestly?
I get that.
Because your wedding vows aren't just another speech.
They're promises you'll carry into your marriage.
Feeling overwhelmed?
My Wedding Vow Writing Workbook walks you through this exact process step by step.
What You're Really Paying For
When someone hires me, they're not paying me to invent their love story.
They're paying me to help them express what they already feel.
The love is yours.
The memories are yours.
The promises are yours.
I'm simply the person who helps you put them into words.
Sometimes that means asking thoughtful questions.
Sometimes it means organizing years of memories into a clear, meaningful structure.
Sometimes it means taking a sentence like...
"I love how she always makes me feel safe."
...and helping you transform it into something that still sounds like you—but says exactly what you mean.
My goal has never been to replace your voice.
It's to help you find it.
You Have More Than One Option
One thing I wish more couples knew is that getting help doesn't have to look the same for everyone.
Some couples want a completely custom experience where we work together one-on-one to create vows that feel deeply personal.
Others simply need a little structure and guidance.
That's exactly why I created my Wedding Vow Writing Workbook.
It walks you through the same questions I ask my private clients, gives you an easy-to-follow structure, and even includes examples and editing prompts so you never have to wonder what comes next.
One bride, Rianna, shared this after using it:
"I used the workbook and had a great experience writing my vows. They are all complete and I could not be happier with how they came out. They are playful, romantic, and so loving all at the same time."
Reading messages like that never gets old.
Your Wedding Vows Deserve More Than a Blank Page
Whether you write every word yourself...
Use my workbook...
Or hire me to help you craft something completely custom...
My hope is the same.
That when you stand across from the person you love most, you aren't worried about whether your vows are "good enough."
You're simply present.
Confident.
And able to say exactly what's on your heart.
Long after your wedding day is over, your vows will continue to shape the marriage you're building together.
And those words are worth investing in.
💛 Need a Little Help?
If you're looking for guidance—but still want the satisfaction of writing your own vows—I think you'll love my Wedding Vow Writing Workbook.
Inside you'll find:
Thoughtful writing prompts
A simple vow structure
Real vow examples
Editing tips
ChatGPT prompts to help you refine your draft
Practical guidance from a professional wedding vow writer
